Adultery Lessons Learned

The lessons I have learned from having a cheating spouse or immeasurable, but the mistakes he showed the children may have life lasting effects.

I speak from experience here folks not as the wrong doer but as the innocent victim of a marriage ruined by adultery. I know what the facts say; they state there are no innocent parties involved in adultery. I was not available as much as he liked, I worked full time, took care of the house, and was raising three children. While I do admit as well my faults of not being as sexually motivated, daring, or whatever within the marriage that is not my fault, which is my moral upbringing. I was innocent; I never sought sexual gratification, or peace of mid outside the marriage.

The marriage vows we take when we get married state "to have and to hold, from this day forward, in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, keeping unto each other until death do us part'. I may have goofed the placement from your thinking but that is the jest of things. I took my vows seriously as did generations of women in my family. The women who came before me dictated that this is the way a marriage is to be handled.

Adultery while it maybe entertainment for some partners it has innocent victims and that is the truth in it. The innocent spouse is doomed to struggle with the children and spotty child support or alimony checks. There is not only the finical aspect of it all, the innocent spouse maybe exposed to all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases and public embarrassment.

If you are cheated upon, you can expect to get the house, all the bills, and the minor children; those are just the facts of life. The cheater has found their freedom and most of the time they want none of the child rearing responsibilities.

The innocent victim is forced to hide their emotions so that the children will know they are loved and not forgotten. We parents who stay behind are forced to put on a brave front for our children so they handle the changes easier. We have to come up with what to tell you children, and that is no easy task.