Should I Hold onto the Ex or Let Him Go?
September 21, 2007 by
Advice Columnist Zuri Sheds Light on the Reality of a Woman's Relationship Predicament.
Dear Ask Zuri,I don't know what to do! I have never been so depressed with my life on a male subject, ever! Me and M started seeing each other Christmas just gone. Everything was fine at first until he broke it to me that he was going away for 2 weeks with 15 of his single rugby friends. I don't know,
His mates are the type who always want him to go out and be single, live the single life and never have a girlfriend etc!
Anyway, it made the situation worse that I am not going on holiday this year and thought we would might book one together (pathetic as it seems), as I started to get my hopes up! The arguments started and we both knew what to do so we mutually ended it. Now I know I was very rational about the whole holiday situation but I want him back. And I know I should just let the holiday happen and trust him and forget about his friends, but there are other issues as well. I really feel that I'm ready to start a relationship that carries on to a serious level. He says he wants the same NOW, but when we were together it seemed he wanted to go out and drink all the time and I always came 2nd best!
I've tried everything to think maybe he is not the one. I've been out and tried to parade the men but the next day I feel empty and guilty and wish he was beside me. I'm scared he won't change though and I'm scared that I will have to go over this same poll forever. I know it has not even been a year I just don't know what to do any more! I feel so empty without him! What shall I do?
- CU
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