Pilgrims - Separatists and Puritans

My husband Matthew is a puritan and I am a separatist, I've recently decided, meaning that his reaction to differences in idealogies/theologies/practices/etc. is to stay and try to "purify" the group/church/body/assemblage, whereas my reaction is to leave said group/church/body/assemblage and gather instead with likeminded people. This could be a source of conflict (and often has been), but it can also be a source of strength (which it is becoming, as I realize more and more that we need each other to balance each others' extremes). I think both purifying and separating have their places.

For example, when we were in Tulsa, the church Matthew and I attended kept getting more and more weird. And then the pastor started letting his wife preach every other week, which didn't make sense - HE might have been gifted as a teacher, but she most certainly was not. It was a struggle for us to not be thoroughly disgusted with Christian oddities Every. Single. Sunday. But we are both anti-church-hopping, so we stuck it out, until one Sunday morning when we found ourselves sitting in our living room, dressed and ready to go, yet unable to force ourselves out the door for church. I tentatively broached the subject. "Uhhh...you know, we could maybe possibly perhaps consider going to another church. It's not like we haven't been going there for a long time - we've given them plenty of chances. We've both gotten involved in ministries there and yet no one has reached out to us in any sort of friendly overture. And it's just getting weirder and weirder. What do you think?" Thereafter, we started going to another church, which we both ended up really liking. No weirdness, no bad speakers teaching, just Jesus, preached plainly every Sunday. In this case, separatism was the right choice.