What's Your Passion?

A friend of mine suggested I write an article about relationships - something I had not initially planned on doing. This is not due to being completely ignorant on this topic. I suppose I have as much "expertise" as the next person. It is because this subject is difficult to write about due to the fact that it is one of those areas of human experience that has agreement as one of its basic foundations. In other words, what works for some people doesn't work for others, and any advice one can give is limited by that factor. However, there may be some things which work for most, or even common to everyone.

There are certain things I have observed to be true, based on both my own experiences and those of others. Whether these observations stand true for everyone I cannot say. Does an ideal partner really exist? I would say that's a definite maybe. How does one find such a person? That depends.

One thing I have observed in the past is the tendency of one partner to try to change the other. Apparently this is somewhat common. In fact, some of these people think they are doing their partner a favor by trying to change them. Furthermore, there are some partners on the receiving end of these kindnesses who seem to appreciate it. The way I see it is, "If you don't like the way I am (which you obviously must not since you're trying to change me) then why are you with me?" It's all a matter of how you look at it. With some couples this type of relationship may work, and with others it's a disaster waiting to happen.

People need a purpose in life to be happy. In the above example that purpose manifests as a purpose to help and/or be helped in that way. I believe that for most people this is not an adequate modus operandi. One key ingredient for a truly satisfying relationship then is a common goal or goals, a common purpose or passion.