Advice on Internet Dating

Advice from Someone Whose Been There and Seen it All!

Nearly ten years ago, I bumbled my way into an internet chat room and accidentally found myself cyber face to cyber face with the greatest love I have ever known. We lived in different countries when we met online, on opposite sides of the continent, and neither thought there was a chance that we would ever come face to face in real life. That gave us complete freedom to choose to lie or to be completely honest. We chose, for the most part, honesty. It wasn't very long before all night chat room sessions became all night phone conversations, and all night phone conversations became more expensive than airplane tickets. Within five months of meeting online we were laying nude on a beach in British Columbia exploring each other under the stars. People thought we had lost our minds. Back then, nobody met online. Of course, now, it's the preferred method of meeting the world over.

Since that fateful day in November of 1997, we have watched Internet daters meet time and time again. We have come face to face with the good, the bad and the ugly. Here are a few things you will want to consider if you find yourself attracted to the person typing words on the other side of the screen:

Just because you are honest doesn't mean that the person on the other side of the conversation is honest. Look for things that are out of whack. For example, if a guy is always talking about how much money he makes, it's likely he's lying. Look for him to run into "financial trouble" right about the time he meets you. If he is more interested in sex talk than any other aspect of your conversation, he's not just being a guy. He's out for a booty call. If you are up for a booty call, great, but if you aren't, then look out! Also, if you lied to him about your weight and gave him an old picture that was taken when all of the planets aligned in airbrush heaven; look for it to matter to him. Generally speaking, the things that people consistently tell you are their biggest strengths are in actuality tied in to their biggest insecurities. Look for focal points in the conversation if he's talking about himself and from there figure out what's really happening.