Why Some Christians Hate the Church and Where Do We Go from Here?

Churches, particularly in the United States, have experienced tremendous change in the last few years. We have seen a move from traditionalism toward a more relaxed approach in both worship and doctrine. The church has also entered heavily into the electronic entertainment arena, where in
 some cases attending church feels more like you are attending a major Hollywood production.

Concerning leadership, the enemy has waged an all-out war on clergy and lay-leaders alike, and we have all watched as many have fallen victim to the vicious attacks which have caused them to compromise their calling. We have also seen the church fail to be restorers in most cases, deciding instead to kick it's wounded along with the enemy.

As a result, many people have run from the church bitter, hurt, and offended. Some of these people have decided to give up on church. There are also those who are searching for something more in their worship and service to God. Most of the churches they have attended have been dry, dull, and lifeless, so they assume that all churches are the same.

Then there are those who bounce from church to church looking for the perfect congregation that will meet all of their needs. These folks typically do not like to be held accountable in any way, and they usually have a problem with authority.

It seems more and more difficult to find people who want to attend church with any regularity. A growing number of people want to come when they feel like it, and their commitment to serving the Lord is in most cases, lacking. There has also been a wave of people who say their spiritual needs are being met virtually through the Internet in the form of chat rooms, etc. A lot of these folks have been hurt by the church and they prefer to not have to deal with people face-to-face, as in a traditional church setting.

Many people in the body of Christ have forgotten that we have been placed into a particular church to serve others, not simply to have our needs met (Hebrews 10:24, Philippians 2:3-5). Jesus went out and touched people even if they smelled bad, had Leprosy, or were offensive.

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I'm a "Bible Christian" who only occasionally visits a church meeting. I don't hate church meetings. I do think all the business and "groupiness" create an atmosphere that's different from, and opposed to, prayer and meditation. Like, maybe, instead of obsessing with how or whether to "accept people as they are," we're supposed to focus on God?

Posted on 03/04/2009 at 7:03:39 PM

Ephesians 2:8-10 (King James Version) 8For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: 9Not of works, lest any man should boast. 10For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.

Posted on 12/08/2008 at 8:12:09 PM

It is possible to disagree with people and not become dramatic about the disagreement. I have close friendships lasting 10 to 15 years with people who tell the naked truth right along with me. They are very respectful and very honest, and that's why I trust them, because they are honest!

Posted on 12/08/2008 at 8:12:22 PM

I am also a pastors daughter and know that comfort is a choice you can make anywhere you are. I have a problem with gossip. everything else is small stuff. I will have nothing to do with people who gossip, especially in the church. If people cannot find authenticity with us as believers, where will they find it? Gossip destroys relationships. There is nothing godly about tolerating any form of gossip. I would love to chat about this subject and any other subject concerning our faith in Christ. lafemmefidele2010@yahoo.com I'm also on myspace under ' lafemmefidele '

Posted on 12/08/2008 at 7:12:47 PM

I think you guys should move away from conventional churches. I am agnostic and have no problem with people attending church, just not radical churches that want to force people into their moral mindset. These un-reasonable people made me lose my faith which i believed in so much for the first 18 years of my life. These same un-reasonable people also forced me into a "how dare you" and actually despising some religous ideology. It's good to see religions moving toward a more liberal view.

Posted on 10/11/2008 at 1:10:14 PM

Thanks for sharing your opinions and views and getting a conversation started.

Posted on 04/24/2008 at 2:04:51 PM

I can really relate to this article. My husband and I had a Christian coffeehouse, and we also held a Bible study there on Sunday evenings. It was the most relaxed, informal service, but we learned so much from each other, the worship was wonderful, and the prayers sincere. I have had a very hard time, since we sold the coffeehouse, wanting to return to traditional worship. I am looking for a place where people are truly wanting to see Gods' spirit move in power. Thanks for a great article Kim!

Posted on 04/23/2008 at 5:04:52 PM

Very well-written article, Kim. As a pastor's son, I definitely support praying for our spiritual leaders and realizing that church is not a place that is required to make us comfortable. We need to return to the basic, core values and beliefs of our faith.

Posted on 03/29/2008 at 1:03:26 PM

i felt the same as teri most of last year. lets pray to become a, "generation that stops complaining about the church it sees and becomes the church it dreams of." (Shane Claiborne, Irresistible Revolution)

Posted on 03/07/2008 at 3:03:30 AM

Yes, mean folks are everywhere. It's awful when the whole church leadership and thus the majority of the members become mean . . . then it's really bad . . . I've always been able to tell what some people hate about "the church" even before anything bad happened to me. Thank God I don't lose my faith because of PEOPLE.

Posted on 02/06/2008 at 8:02:56 PM

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