Could Your Dating Style Be Pre-Determined by Nature?

It has been said the all men are trying to do when they enter into a relationship is get into a woman’s pants. This is largely true. It starts off with parents who do not give proper moral guidance to their young boys about girls and as a result have no idea how to control themselves around girls. They end up dating based on attraction and then the relationship fails and ends. It is likely some fooling around has happened between the guy and the girl and this makes the break up difficult for both parties involved. Eventually men simply learn to be conquerors or predators. They let their hormones lead them. They learn how to manipulate girls in ways that are favorable to them attaining the conquest. 

Sometimes men are not trying to do this but they still follow the same date and break up cycle and instead of “conquests” these men have a string of broken hearts behind them. 

In both cases it is because they do not know how to relate to women properly and they have not had proper moral training. This creates a vicious cycle that is dragged out and perpetuated into adult life. 

What needs to happen for relationships to function properly is for men to stop following the old and evil patterns handed down to them and to find a new way to relate to women. 

The center of the example at the beginning of this article is selfishness. Men need to adopt an approach that is centered around “the other.” This is difficult to do because there is so much static in the air on how to handle it.

If you are reading this and are currently single… 

Reflect on your life and evaluate the failed relationships. Assess what you might have done to cause the relationship to fail. Be honest. You aren’t going to get anywhere if you lie to yourself. Consider what you could have done differently and what about you can be changed so that when you date again you’ll be ready. I say this so you can gather principles that are particular to yourself.