A Single Person in a Romantic Relationship Has No Legal Obligation to Be Faithful

It never ceases to amaze me when I hear a single person say the following: I broke up with him or her, because he or she had cheated on me. But what exactly does the word cheating mean when it relates to unmarried couples? Cheating is defined as acting dishonestly, being deceptive or committing a fraudulent act. But cheating has a different meaning when it happens in a legally committed union as oppose to an unmarried liaison.

How does a relationship develop between two people, and what are the differences when it comes to unmarried and legally married couples. I am using the word legally because very few states recognize common law marriages. For all purposes, I am differentiating between the words legally and unmarried. Let's look at the following situation:

You're at a party; you observe a person standing in the corner of the room and immediately your eyes meet. Sparks begin to fly, and you both envision that it's definitely love at first sight. You then exchange telephone numbers, call each other every day, discuss how much you have in common and decide it's time to start dating. After several months of courting and getting to know each other, you both decide to make a private declaration of your love for each other, and now you're in an exclusive relationship. Neither one of you will date or see anyone outside of this union. Even though the bond has been going strong for several months, getting married is not in the cards for neither of you. You may or may not decide to cohabitate. But for now, the both of you are happy as two peas in a pod.

However, somewhere down the road, you discover that your significant other has been cheating on you. Now you're angry, because you assumed you were in a committed relationship. You believed that this person had no right to deceive you in such a manner; after all you gave your heart and soul to this person, exchange gifts and contributed financially to maintain the relationship. And to add insult to injury, you never so much as looked at another human being, much less went behind his or her back to be with another individual.