How to Be an Advocate for Your Child at School

I have seen schools ruined by over-zealous parents. However, usually, there is not a legitimate concern over whether or not their child is being fairly treated: they are trying to give their child an edge by controlling the school's actions.

There are several reasons to be involved in your child's school experience. First, it is important to let your child know that you care. Actions speak louder than words. It is necessary to get involved to show them that you really do care. Next, it is important to show the school and the teachers that you care. It isn't so much to try and create a "fear environment", as it is to try and let the school know that you are "part of the package" when it comes to the education of your child. Finally, being involved in the right way contributes to a positive environment which helps your child.

So how should a parent be an "advocate"?

Take the opportunity to "meet the school". Go to Parent-Teacher Conferences; meet the teachers. Put a face with a name, and, make it a happy face. When they see your child you want them to have a positive thought; not one of dread. When you are talking to teachers about grades, be a problem solver; not a lawyer. You are being an advocate; what you want to accomplish is to find the best ways to help your child learn; not get them out of work.

Attend the functions that you child is involved with. Whether it is sports, drama or music, when they are involved; you are involved. My experience with my sons was that they would always act like they didn't want me to make a big deal over what they accomplished at school; don't believe them; it hurts a child if they think that their parents don't care.

Volunteer for the school. Offer your services where needed. You can participate in the PTA; get involved in fund raising; be a monitor on field trips and, if you understand sports; coach. There are many, many ways to be involved.

I consider being an advocate to be a "holistic approach." While you want your child to live their own life; there are things you can give to them to that helps them make a successful adjustment to what can be a very difficult social and academic situation.