Balancing Your Emotions for More Satisfying Relationships

Emotions can be a double-edged sword. Balanced expression can help us to articulate more clearly, or the lack thereof can defeat the whole purpose of effective communication, thereby causing rifts in even the most placid of relationships.

While being too emotional is not good, not being emotional enough can cause just as many problems. We all have emotions, including the most 'in-his-head' Gemini, who is a good example of this particular dilemma. And believe me, it can be a dilemma. Even Geminis with a stellium that includes Mercury (communication, intellect) and the Moon (emotions, intuition), though they feel more comfortable not feeling, innately know that something is missing: their emotions.

One Gemini once told me, when he realized that he was working too much and needed to take a bit of a break, that he also realized he needed to be more moderate in his behavior, including his propensity to overwork himself. While the moderation or balancing aspect is a Libra trait, I'm not surprised that he feels this way: while his Sun is in Gemini, he has a Libra Ascendant. Libra is the balancer, the diplomat; it's glyph, a pair of scales. The Libra influence balances, while the Gemini influence is extremely frenetic, kinetic and pushes. And Mars in Gemini sextile Pluto will make sure of that push; usually in the way of new ideas, and certainly physical movement.

Please note that this is not implying that Geminis are heartless. There's a big difference between being heartless and not reacting, emotionally. Air Signs feel the same emotions we all do, however they generally choose not to express them. However, if we are to be balanced, we need to look at the other aspect of emotionalism as welll: the lack of any emotional expression at all and its affects on those with whom we interact.

When Saying Nothing Causes More Harm than Talking

Other than lawyers and professional debaters, few of us make a living from arguing. So when arguments rear their ugly heads in relationships - any type of relationship - it can be extremely disconcerting for anyone involved.