Homeschooling to Get Positive Social Interaction?

A New Look at Socialization Skills Within a Home School

For so many years, choosing to educate children from home was looked at as stripping away their social interaction. However, many homeschooling families will argue with that fact, and for good reason.

In a homeschool setting, there is a smaller number of children to watch over, making it much easier to turn the negative into positive.
 

Some people might assume that because children homeschool, they will not have any friends. This is simply not true. Friends can be made from your neighborhood, an extra class, at the park, at the museum, within your own extended family, and various other avenues. A public school is not the only place one can acquire a friend.

Homeschooled children are allowed to call and play with their friends, just as a public schooled child would. It is no different. There are birthday parties, slumber parties, shopping trips, and more - all the activities public school friends do as well.

Also, in many homeschooling families, extra steps are taken to be sure that socialization is included, which means there is researching to be done on the parent's part for the methods and sometimes extra classes that will provide this.

This research often leads to finding solutions that focus on positive interaction with others because any good method will focus on the positive, rather than the negative. Socializing is also given special attention, thus making socialization greatly important to a homeschooling family.

This special attention often isn't given in public school because it is sometimes assumed that since the children are with other children all day, they are socializing well. However, this assumption shouldn't always be made. All socialization isn't positive. It can be negative as well. This is a fact looked over by many.

While some teachers do provide some great character development and social instruction in public school, which they are to be commended for, the children are often greatly influenced by each other. This comes naturally, as they desire to fit in. Also, it is simply just fun for them to relate with each other, which is certainly okay when that relating isn't negative.

 
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Thanks. Yeah, the Socialization myth is pretty weak, as far as I'm concerned. The picture was taken at their friend's house. :-)

Posted on 06/12/2008 at 8:06:00 AM

I mean, *Momie* (sorry!)

Posted on 06/12/2008 at 8:06:50 AM

Home schooling is clearly the better choice, but only if A) you choose the proper curriculum, B) the parent is dedicated enough to stay consistent with it and C) if the public schools in your area are unsafe or incompetent (which seems to be most). That "depriving kids of social skills" argument is BUNK! There's always the Scouts, little league, and, for that matter, playing with the other neighborhood kids. Despite what some folks believe about homeschooling, it does NOT involve locking your kids in a pumpkin shell! Great job, Mimie, and your kiddies are SOOOO precious!

Posted on 06/12/2008 at 8:06:03 AM

What people forget, too, is that it's not just at school that kids interact socially. You can always enroll your child in Boy or Girl Scouts, local sports teams, and after-school activities. Sometimes, too, homeschooling families will get together and create support groups to which they'll bring their children, allowing the kids a chance to play together while the adults chat.

Posted on 02/23/2008 at 8:02:14 AM

Thanks Rachel. I also don't believe every child in public school is violent, just that it does exist and that it's easier for it to exist. That doesn't mean that it always does. Sorry for the confusion in my view. Having had the opportunity to try both with my children, I can honestly say that, while they were always respectable and positive children, they seem to be a touch happier with themselves now that we homeschool. One of my daughters informed me that the kids at her last traditional school were "mean", which is something neither she, nor the school ever mentioned at the time. But, I will still say that, like you said, all kids in public school are not this way. I only wanted to bring it to attention that home school does not limit social skills as much as some people tend to think.

Posted on 01/16/2008 at 6:01:17 AM

This is an interesting article and I'm glad to know about other forms of education! A customized learning plan sounds like an opportunity for fantastic growth. However, I don't necessarily agree with the comments. I started out my education in a very strict (and small) school, and felt behind in social skills, just because I was with the same handful of people for a couple years. Not much cultural diversity in the small town where I grew up, which didn't help the issue. I've also attended public schools and I can vouch that we're not a bunch of violent social deviants. The only problem comes when parents rely solely on the school system to raise their children, instead of listening to their needs at home. When one looks at the deviants' back-stories, the violence is much more complex than simple school based socialization - mental illness can strike anywhere. Generalizing public school children is just as narrow minded as the people generalizing homeschooled children. I believ

Posted on 01/16/2008 at 5:01:15 AM

Thanks Breidi. I totally agree. In most cases, you will not see home schooled children doing many of the negative things involved in the social lives of public schooled kids. Instead, you will generally see well-rounded kids who can get along with anyone, regardless of age, race, or background.

Posted on 11/05/2007 at 9:11:00 PM

I love this article! To be honest children can be socialize anywhere. My son is homeschooled and has awsome socialization skills. To be quite frank, some of the things going on in the public schools today, I just asume he not socialize with some of those children. As I see someone else stated, if anyone has a problem with the social skills of my son, I comment by saying,"I can garentee you will not catch him with a gun shooting people for no reason." I also let them know that I know what is going on in his life, what he watches on TV and what toyes he has. Also that he can socialize just as well with adults as he can children. It is so much easier to concentrate on the positive rather than the negative.

Posted on 11/05/2007 at 7:11:00 PM

Thanks Kelly and Jasmine! Those video classroom dvd's sound great Kelly. We kind of gather our curriculum from many different sources, including me writing pland and assignments from research. It's more challenging this way, but I think it helps to customize the learning.

Posted on 10/25/2007 at 11:10:00 AM

Great Job!!

Posted on 10/25/2007 at 10:10:00 AM

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