Custody Disputes and Father's Rights

Proving You're Not a "Dead Beat Dad"

Divorce and separation is an already ugly matter but when you add children in the mix it s down right discouraging and often painful. Father’s usually go into custody disputes thinking they have already lost. Those who are fortunate enough to hire lawyers usually hear how the mothers never loose”, “mothers are always right”, and “don’t expect to have your children for more than two days at a time.” Lawyers will often encourage fathers to settle for mere visitation instead of custody because then they aren’t as likely to lose the case for the minimal work involved with just seeking a few visits per year. 

Don’t worry dads; there is hope if you follow a few simple rules. First, you must be organized, and if you are going to hire a lawyer you must find one that is not only tough, but well prepared and organized himself. Secondly, if you intend to take a child away from its mother you must have a damn good reason. And always remember three things a judge will be watching for when making an ultimate decision: 

• NO Mental Games ie: stalking, harassment of any kind (physical, emotional, via the telephone, anything like that) 

• NO disparaging remarks! You do not tell your children lies, no matter how bad you want them to be true because in the end your children will grow up and when they do they will discover the truth. 

• Always put your children first. Do not be consumed by the fight between you and your ex. Simply fight the battle so you and your children can get on with your lives.