To Love Honor and Betray - Surviving Infidelity

It's common that months or sometimes years are invested into planning and perfecting a wedding ceremony. The wedding gown has to be exquisite and the tux complimentary to the groom's stature. Flower arrangements must be picturesque, the invitations elegant and the reception hall filled with beautiful decor. This creates a scene for one of the most exciting moments in a person's life.

It's such a wonderful experience when a man and woman profess their love for one another. Family and friends gather to celebrate this beautiful union and are overwhelmed with joy as the bride and groom say "I do". The love these two have for each other is infectious to all in attendance and no other event measures up to this special day. As the bride and groom share their first dance as man and wife, spectators look upon them with adoration, knowing that the vows they've made will be honored for the rest of their lives.

As the married couple begin their journey together they have so many plans, goals and dreams that they want fulfilled; a beautiful home, a nice car, financial freedom and children. Goals are obtained and dreams come true but after time marriages begin to have problems. Sometimes work takes precedent over a family meal, children's needs come before an evening out together and the bank account that was once full is now empty. Life happens, problems arise and people change as time goes on.

After being married for a while couples that only saw the good in their spouses now see and often point out their partner's flaws and short comings. As the heat of an argument reaches record temperatures, fingers are pointed, words are said that pierce the heart and spending time away from each other is a welcomed event; what was once love is now hatred. Their hearts become cold, bitter and resentful and for some couples depression seeps in and isolation soon follows. The feelings of hopelessness and anger manifest themselves in many ways but infidelity is the most common; not only does it sever marriages, it tears families apart.