Men Who Say They Won't Marry Until They're Ready for Children are Full if It

I once took a class in college, turned out to be a disaster, but that is another story. One bright spot though was that I sat by a woman who ended up to be entertaining as heck, willing to talk to me about aspects of her life that frankly I had no business knowing. I looked forward to each class just to hear what she would say next.

This woman's main topic of conversation was her boyfriend, whom she lived with. I had an opinion about that, but decided to keep it to myself, after all I hardly knew her. Basically, the woman's story went like this: she wanted to teach, was in her early twenties, comes from a privileged background, ready to get marry and immediately wanted to start having children. It was the latter part, the wanting so badly to have children which really struck me, but while she was ready to enter wedded bliss and settle down to hearth and home, her boyfriend was not, as a result she chooses to wait. Then she went on to tell me that her boyfriend said he would not marry her until he was ready to have children and he was not ready.

Huh! I thought, still keeping my mouth shut. As the woman went on to explain, her boyfriend believed that a person should not get marry unless they were ready to have children, not seeing the point otherwise.

There was more to this woman's story, things she told me about her life, that actually helped me see and understand things that, not knowing her too well, I felt I did not have to right to point out to her. However, besides that I was astounded that she did not seem to find it at all insulting, like I did, that her boyfriend was basically saying to her, "I will live with you, screw you, but if I marry you it will not be because I love you and can not be without you, but because I am ready to have children and I need you, a baby making machine, to do it."