Signs that Say He's Just Not into You - Recognize How to Spot Mr. Wrong so You Can Make Room for Mr. Right

Every woman has had her eye on or dated the type of guy I'm talking about here. You are never really sure where you stand with him or what his interest level really is. Call him Mr. Flake, Mr. Player, Mr. Self Absorbed or Mr. Afraid of Commitment. Whatever his romantic style, it's just
 leaving you confused, frustrated and wondering what's really going on in his mind. So, let's spotlight the warning signs to look out for when a guy simply is not that into you or playing you.

The Physical Signs
He'll avoid eye contact, his body is positioned away from you, his arms are folded tightly over his chest, he does not encourage conversation or volunteers anything about himself. He maintains his distance.

The Emotional Signs
You've been dating for at least 6 months. He still can't say he loves you or wants to talk about his feelings in regards to you. If you have a guy who is constantly telling you that he does not love you, is not in love with you, is not sure how he feels and does not see a future with you after the 6 month mark, believe him. I feel that is a good marker of time for him to know where he sees this going and if he is developing strong feelings for you or loves you. When a guy is into you, he'll want to let you know how he feels when he is sure that you feel the same way. If he can't do that, start re-assessing what you are still doing with him.

He Ignores or Shows You Disrespect
If he is ignoring you or disrespects you by putting down your values, thoughts and ideas, he's just not interested in you or in a relationship with you. Don't waste your time on a guy who does that and focus your attention on a guy who focuses on you.

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It's a tough life, I suppose. Everthg written has happened, I believe to many. Unfortunately, knwing the signs, getting the head knwledge, experiencing the who-ha did not prevent the inevitable fall, hurts, tears, questions. I'm going through it myself. Given time, we'll eventually snap out of it. Dont be too hard on yourslf. It's may be easy to some, but more than often, not easy in general. Get CRAZY comedies tht you can laugh your ass off. Hang around family, the pple that always are around - it's just that only now that you've realised their presence. I'm hopeful that you will get out of this transient misery. I'm being realistic, and not idealistic. Sincere and honest, because, at the moment, I, myslf have too many questions, I'm hurting, it's painful. Chin up. Look forward to the peace after your storm =)

Posted on 06/24/2009 at 10:06:29 AM

This article was so revealing. Basically confirms everything I knew, but needed to see in writing!!! I kicked my commitment-phobe to the curb a few weeks ago. Nothing from him since then. Actions or lack thereof, do speak volumes.

Posted on 06/08/2009 at 5:06:29 PM

I've liked this guy for 4 1/2 yrs. He's been in and out of my life...just flirting and getting my hopes up only to be disappointed each and every time. To make a long story short...he shows most of the symptoms of not being into me, even though he says he is. I've told him I'm done, over and over, and he still comes back only to hurt me over and over again. I tell him off and tell him that actions speak louder than words but the circle continues. He ignored a text, of mine, today. I'm hurt, again. I have to get the guts to stick to my guns and keep him out of my life. I've told him that I deserve better and I know I do. I can't believe I've been such an idiot. This article was great. I hope it's knocked some sense into me. Thank you!

Posted on 04/19/2009 at 8:04:59 PM

No guy will ever be "that" into me. I've accepted it. I so clearly have been hurt by men and have low self esteem. I wish they would just leave me alone

Posted on 04/09/2009 at 2:04:32 AM

im still holdin onto a lost dream, afta he disappeared without a trace. i feel like he thinkz im so gross or sumthn. itz so hard for girlz to move on without tat clozure. and sum of uz neva do..

Posted on 04/01/2009 at 3:04:37 AM

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Posted on 04/01/2009 at 3:04:34 AM

if someone is interested in you they will do whatever it takes to tell you or show you that they are interested. their friends,family,busy schedules will not keep them from being with someone they are truly interested in. we may make excuses as to why they don't call,text or spend time with us because we don't want to believe someone really is not that into us. we ask ourselves what is wrong with us not what is wrong with the other person. we need to get pass denial and move one to someone who deserves a wonderful person like ourselves. we need to love self first.

Posted on 03/20/2009 at 10:03:59 PM

well lets face it, if we have the thoughts in our head that he isn't interested he probably isnt't. There are so many more things to take into account though than above - what about the texts, the calls, how he talks in bed, how he talks to his friends. We are worth better than some guy that we hang onto waiting to see if he's serious. Next! Treat him mean and if he's interested he'll show interest! Oooh and stop thinking that that particular scene in your fav chic flick is going to happen - it isn't, and remember men aren't mind readers - tell him what you want..

Posted on 03/07/2009 at 8:03:47 AM

Good Job!! I think that this article was well written. Even though everyone's situation varies, the bottom line of each scenerio is true. I'm all about intuition, and red flags these days.

Posted on 03/07/2009 at 1:03:17 AM

I read this article after a girl im into watched that new "Hes just not that into you" movie and she said i was confusing :S i admit some of them are prime examples... but as you probably know... not all of them can be used as a single reason to believe hes not into you... some guys are just different, or just arn't really good with relationships, but reading this has helped me realize how im sending out mixed signals, im glad i took the time to read this and the comments posted by you all

Posted on 03/02/2009 at 4:03:40 PM

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