Is Your Boyfriend a Loser?

Understand the Signs

One of the first signs to look at, to determine if your boyfriend is a loser, is to examine your reactions by being with him. Are you constantly on edge? Afraid to be yourself? Have you developed anxiety or physical symptoms since being with him? Do you feel used or feel the relationship is one-sided? Do you often feel the need to escape, but aren't sure why? Maybe your boyfriend is a loser and toxic to your life, your well-being.

Some signs to look for:

1. Did he attach himself very soon? Losers often attach themselves early on and have no idea how to "develop" healthy relationships. The loser wants something quick and often gets out of the relationship just as quickly, when they find someone else that suits their agenda, better. While their words may appear they are committed, they don't have the emotional maturity to commit.

2. Does he make fun of you and pass it off as "just a joke"? Losers like to feel superior by cutting others down. Someone that truly loves you and is emotionally healthy, won't feel the need to cut you or anyone else down. Instead, they would help build you up.

3. Does he try to isolate you? A loser wants you for his own and doesn't want anyone or anything getting in the way of his needs. His focus is on his needs, not your happiness.

4. Would he rather collect a government check or unemployment instead of working? Very well might be a sign of a mooch - someone that doesn't take pride in earning what they receive. He'll mooch off of you as long as you allow it.

5. Does he refuse to meet your friends or family? That isn't fair to you. He'll drive a wedge between you and those you love and that's his purpose. He doesn't want anyone to interfere. A good partner wants to be part of your life, not separate you from the life you've always known.

6. Is his idea of quality entertainment in the form of drugs or alcohol? A loser often uses these crutches because they've never learned how to enjoy life without them. He'll be married to the bottle or drugs long before he's married to you.