Motivating Your Child to Reach Their Full Potential

Every parent wants the best for their children. Since the day you find out you are expecting, you start dreaming about who this little person will one day be. You are immediately convinced that this little boy or girl has a bright future ahead of them. It's only natural. But then they come along and the terrible twos rears it's ugly head. They are loud, selfish, and annoying until they get their way. You know they could have a bright future, but you don't know how to help them discover it. Heck, you don't even know how to get them to put their clothes back on and quit throwing their food across the room. It's okay. Don't despair. There is hope.

The Trap

Most parents during this time find themselves at wit's end and rely on what psychologists refer to as extrinsic motivators. For example, parents may use the promise of a treat later in return for good behavior now. If you have used this technique with your children, you may have noticed a very undesirable side effect. He or she will only behave well when they are reassured that they will be reinforced for it later. If this cycle is repeated several times, a good child can quickly become a baby-sitter's nightmare. Even though extrinsic motivators are quick, they are hardly effective.

The Answer

If external motivation fails to work, perhaps you should try internal motivation. This technique works in a much different way and it may feel awkward or uncomfortable in the beginning. And if your child is used to being motivated externally, he or she will not adjust immediately. However, if you persist through the tantrums, you will discover that your child happier and more self-confident. He or she will become more excited about school work and possibly even more eager to help out around the house. Sound like a dream? It could be your reality. And here's how:

Step 1: Get Your Child on Your Side