Spiritual Glasses to Understand the Difficult Child

Clothes on the bedroom floor, coats and shoes in the hall, wet towels dumped in the bathroom, food spills in the kitchen, food shoved in the refrigerator, missing cordless phones, pencils and pens inside the sofa cushions, lying, disobedience, answering back, bickering and chaos. Am I describing life with your difficult child?

If only we have access to a spectacle called "spiritual glasses". Will you see monster-like figures with arrow-shaped tails and horns on its head? And on the other side of your child, will you see a peaceful-looking creature with snow-white wings? The spiritual glasses allow us to see our child at the moment of decision. The spiritual glasses ensure that we understand his perspective.

The spiritual glasses also permit you to witness the battles of a child on a daily basis. For instance, one son picked up the $20 bill in Mom's bedroom. Then, he stopped. He smiled and looked at Mom's pen on the floor. He picked it up too. He put the $20 bill and pen back in Mom's purse. You think to yourself, so far so good. But wait, your son got distracted. He spotted the box underneath your bed and found your coin collection. He found 3 collectible coins and put it into his pocket. He sneaked out of the house to the neighbors. Now, you understand the excess toys in his bedroom.

You go to the next room. You proudly see your child getting the clean clothes from the dryer. With pride, you watch him folding it up just as you instructed. After a few minutes, he gets bored. He picks up the remaining unfolded clean clothes and shoves it under his other pile of dirty clothes. Now, you understand why he often complains he has nothing to wear.

Then, you go to another room in the house. You found two of your little ones wrestling with each other. The bigger child kicks his brother. The little one retaliates and lashes back. Now, you understand that chaos happens when bored and idle.

You spot your teenager pinned down on his computer chair viewing some scantily dressed women on the Internet. Now, you understand why he angrily demands that he is not getting enough privacy.