My BDSM Story: Dominance and Submission in My Relationship

What do people get out of being submissive to their partners?  Many relationships have an element of D/s (Dominance and submission), ranging from mellow general behavior expectations to rigid and defined roles and rules. Where do Master and I fit in?

I accepted his collar and his ring almost six years ago. I took my time learning about this man. I saw him in ‘normal’ daily activities, such as work, family relations, and doing the laundry. I noted how calm and self-controlled he was, how staunchly responsible, and how openly well mannered. He encouraged me to think about what I wanted of my future, to set my own boundaries regarding BDSM play and D/s, in general. To be honest (a firm rule in Master’s house), I certainly never even considered becoming his submissive, the thought was ridiculous and I was raised during the Women’s Liberation Movement! Heck, I had burned more than my share of bras! How could I possibly even consider turning over MY power to a MAN?

Well, ‘it’ happened, gradually, born of trust and desire to let go of the fears and angst I harbored inside. I read every book and article I could get my hands on. I looked for related chat rooms on the internet. Then I ran! This was way too weird for me! I told my ‘boyfriend’, “No way in Hell am I going to do THAT!” and he laughed at me! Imagine that! He then sat down with me on his lap, comforting me with his gentle words of tenderness. For the next hours, we explored what a D/s relationship could be, for US, what our life COULD be, for US! He explained that while he was appreciative that I had researched this scary thing called the lifestyle, he wanted me to understand that much of what I had read and seen online, was fiction, only fiction. Furthermore, he continued, our future was ours to design. OURS.