Jack and Jill Party: Planning, Attending, and Enjoying the Couples Shower

Jack and Jill....Had a Party!

Tired of the same old pastel bridal showers and drunken bachelor's parties? As a wedding attendee or best friiend of the bride or groom, consider organizing a couples shower, more commonly known as a "Jack and Jill." For some couples it is more fun, lucrative and tasteful to have a Jack and Jill shower together with family and friends rather than have a separate bridal shower and bachelor party.

Location, Location Location

Depending on the season and the interests of the couple, a Jack and Jill may be held as a luncheon, a laid-back bbq at a family's house or local park, or most traditionally at a local hall rented out for the occasion. The location will determine the number of people that can be accomodated. It is best to invited everyone who is going to the wedding to the shower and vice versa. However, in this day and age when couples may be tightening their belts, a "Jack and Jill" party is a great occasion to invite those who may not have made it onto the finalized invitation list.

Save the Date

A Jack and Jill is usually held anywhere from two months to two weeks before the wedding. There are no rules, and the party may be held anytime after the engagement until right before the wedding day. The shower is not intended to be a suprise for the bride and groom so it is best to consult them on the best day and time.

This Old Thing?

Most Jack and Jill showers are dress casual, unless otherwise noted on the invitation. Like any event, dress comfortably according to the location, time of day and time of year. There's no need for a new dress or a new suit, wear something you already own and accessorize it: a new necklace for you, a new tie for him. And be sure to wear those dancing shoes!

Gifts

The best gifts to give at Jack and Jill showers are gifts that may be used by both the bride and the groom. This usually means practial items for their home, not risque clothing or gag gifts. Money is traditionally the favored gift at a Jack and Jill shower.

Let Them Eat Cake!