Spark of Chemistry in a Romantic Relationship: Organic or Developed?

Ah chemistry, that romantic spark between a man and a woman. But what is chemistry? Is chemistry organic, something two people either naturally have or they don't? Or is chemistry something that is developed in a relationship as you get to know someone and grow to love them?

If you've ever experienced that elusive feeling we term as chemistry, you know what I'm talking about. It is a beautiful and powerful emotion. Chemistry as we call it, is the proverbial current of electricity between two people that can either make or break a relationship. Chemistry can take many forms but in all it's forms in connects people. Chemistry can connect people emotionally, intellectually or romantically, and at it's very best in all three ways.

Now, I'm not necessarily talking about sex here. I'm referring to a relationship between a man and a woman, preferably married. Romantic chemistry, is in it's very nature a very sensuous, sexual feeling. This romantic chemistry is part of how we select a mate, it's part of our nature. It's a natural, beautiful feeling that can bring us great joy.

Having chemistry between a man and a woman, when they are both unmarried, can be the difference between a relationship being romantic or platonic. We've all known people of the opposite sex we have cared about deeply, but did not feel this chemistry with even if everything else in the relationship was right. And because of this lack of chemistry no romantic relationship develops or a romantic relationship fizzles out. But on the other hand, sometimes this feeling gradually and unexpectedly develops between a platonic relationship between a man and a woman. Sometimes best friends become lovers.

Romantic chemistry also has a dark side, one that people seem to often ignore. We all enjoy the rush of feeling romantic chemistry, as it is natural. But, people often get caught up in the feeling of the first blush of love or sometimes just lust or infatuation.

They may be in love but do they have romantic chemistry?

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