Man Up: Realizing the Relationship is Over

The title actually reflects that the intention was to write this geared towards the guys out there. Most likely the article, in a lot of ways, could be useful to any gals who are holding on to a relationship that is nearing the finish line as well. The main focus will be to point out what a waste of time it is to spin your wheels on something you only "HOPE" will happen. There will be a couple questions you can ask yourself to become clear on why you might be wasting your days hoping for something that is no longer in the cards.

Relationships begin on a much different note than how they usually end. The relationship, when new is everything you could ever want. Each of you may be excited about the possibility of a long term relationship. You may find that, yes, indeed this relationship is perfect. As much as we want to believe that life continues at a steady pace, we soon discover that there could be bumps in the road that no one saw coming. Sometimes these "bumps" can be navigated with little work. Sometimes you may find that you wish and hope things would change and continue on the path of being unhappy and sometimes as long as you are still in the relationship, negative or not, you tell yourself it will get better. Meanwhile, life has a way of passing you by and you may find that the unhappiness becomes suffocating. You may ask yourself, "am I going to settle for this? "

Situations that may arise are: infidelity, abuse, not being compatible any longer, resentment for not sharing the daily load, one person continues to grow and one doesn't, the reasons are really endless. How are you going to deal with these issues if they arise? What if your request for help goes on deaf ears? What if you no longer share any common ground and everyday feels like a struggle. Are you willing to continue with this as is or are you willing to "man up" and realize what needs to be done?