Are You in Love with an Angry Man?

10 Steps You Can Take To Deal With An Angry Man

1. For most men anger is a mask for hurt and pain. Help them to recognize these feelings in a non-judgmental way. Believe it or not, men need reassurance and the need to feel secure just as much as women do.

2. Imagine looking at the situation as if you were an onlooker. This will help you realize, you do not have control in forcing him to change. When he is ready to deal with his unresolved issues, and buried pain, he will know.

3. Take a look at yourself and how you deal with his explosive behavior. In what way do you handle the situation? Do you get on the same level? Does he make you feel inferior? Do you take the blame? Sometimes, these actions actually make the situation worse. You need to reevaluate your role in the drama.

4. After an extreme argument, you may beat yourself up and do something in haste. Remember to put yourself first. He does not define you. You have friends and family that care very deeply for you, and it's important to let them in and keep them aware of what's going on.

5. Do not let an argument cloud your opinion of yourself. Understand that he explodes because somewhere inside of him, he feels his needs are not being met. His way of dealing with his inferiority is by putting you down. Words can be devastating, but try your best to keep them in context. More often than not, it's his own low self-esteem and frustration that's setting him off.

6. Find an appropriate time to sit down with him, or better yet take a long drive with him, and allow this one on one time to let him understand that you realize that he's feeling a lot of pain. Try to allow him to feel comfortable in the fact that you are there for him and whenever he wants to talk, you are open to receive. Men need to feel that you understand. It may seem like they're trying to push you away, but in reality they need you more than ever.