Relationships: How to Deal with a Lazy Partner

You have had a long day at work, and you come home to find your spouse hunched over his X-box controller. Or you find your wife mindlessly watching soap operas. While it is understood that everyone needs a break to do the things that they enjoy doing, it can be infuriating to come home to a lazy partner day after day. When you confront your partner about it, they will probably make excuses, but rest assured that this kind of behavior is not excusable. All this behavior does is put strain on a relationship, and it needs to be corrected for the relationship to continue in a healthy manner. But what should you do? Here are some tips for dealing with the lazy spouse issue.

Some partners will say that they just forget to do their chores. While this is a pathetic excuse, to say the least, you should devise a plan to help them remember. You could simply say when you want them to complete a chore, but this can become redundant, not to mention your mate should be able to determine what needs done when. However, if they are not able to complete chores without your guidance, then one thing to consider is a chores list. While this may seem childish, it can be a happy compromise. If you write down the chores for your partner to complete each day, then you no longer have to verbally remind them. Also, the excuse of forgetting to do their chores or not knowing which chores to do becomes invalid, because it is posted in black and white.

Another option is a verbal agreement between yourself and your spouse. Sit down and talk to them, tell them how strongly you feel about this issue. It is possible that your partner truely doesn't understand that what they are doing is wrong. If your partner is truly mindful of your feelings on the subject, they will take what you say to heart and become more aware of the chores that need completed around the house. With time your partner may be rehabbed completely, and will help with the house hold chores without you even telling them to.