7 Most Common Bedtime Mistakes Parents Make

A Smarter Approach to Fighting Bedtime Battles

Bedtime battles can be a parent's nightmare full of flaring tempers and rebellious attitudes. Most parents do their best to combat this bedtime behavior, but did you know that there are several mistakes that most parents don't know about that could actually contribute to the problem? Could you be committing some of these same mistakes? Could you improve the chances of an easier transition to that nighttime bliss? With the possibility of extra sleep and bedtime peace hanging in the balance, you can't afford to take the chance. I've compiled a list of seven most common mistakes parents make concerning their children's bedtime routines. Read on to find out if you are jeopardizing this important aspect of your child's development.

Mistake #1: Fighting Back Instead of Winning
Unfortunately, when the child's bedtime arrives, you are also tired from a long day. If a child resists, you might be tempted to argue back at them, however, this is a classic mistake. If a child can pull you into an argument, he or she has the opportunity to win. Despite widespread use, the cliché "because I said so" does not win fights, it incites a righteous indignation. Being the adult, the discussion is not an argument unless you allow it to become one. Instead of arguing, shake things up. Instead of reacting with a harsh voice, use a gentle one. This will calm any hostility in the child. Also, make sure your voice is softer than normal. Children often mimic soft voices, so soon they will be whispering too. When your child expresses sentiments of how "unfair" the situation is, etc., agree with them and then explain a little more. Try something like, "Yes, it is unfair that you have to go to bed and miss what happens in the world for the next several hours. But in order for you to grow up tall, strong and smart, you need your rest." By being sympathetic instead of combative, you will diffuse their hostility and have an opportunity to discuss the importance of sleep and your reasons for enforcing a bedtime. Remember, a child who understands the why is more apt to comply.