The Secret to What Women Want

Many men through the generations have pondered the age-old questions, "What do women want?" "Why do they act this way or that way?" "Why are they so hard to understand?" "Why do I get told not to try to understand women because I never will but then get penalized for not trying hard enough to be understanding?"

Many articles have been written, movies made, and books published on this very topic, none of which you will ever find the answer. The answer lies in every woman; however, the answer is different with every woman. For example, due to a woman's past some women may need to have a man treat her in a specific way to make her feel secure while other women may see the same treatment as patronizing.

The keys to finding out the answer to women are communication and listening. It's as simple as asking a few questions such as what does she want out of life and what is she looking for in a man and then listening to the answer. Just like there are women who know exactly what they want there will also be women who have no idea. Some women haven't decided what career they should follow or if they want to get married and have children right away; but they do know what makes them happy and what doesn't.

Being friends before dating is also a good way to find out more about someone. For fear of being judged or seen in a bad light people may tend to hide certain aspects of their personalities when first dating. When starting out as friends you're more relaxed with each other and there is no pressure to impress the other person.

There is one thing to keep in mind when asking women questions regarding their wants: you need to be honest with yourself. If the woman you are with is describing a man that doesn't resemble you or is describing a life she wants that doesn't fit your idea of what you want then you need to know this relationship is not going to work. Changing yourself is not the answer either no matter what the woman looks like or how she is as a person. You can't change yourself for anyone.