Help for Weary Foster Parents: Tips for Overcoming Foster-Care Burnout
December 18, 2007 by
Foster parenting is hard work! The job comes with little or no pay and even fewer rewards. It's a 24-hour-a-day, seven-day-a-week job working with children who can try even the most seasoned foster parent and leave them frustrated and ready to throw in the towel.
One of the most important things a foster parent can do for the children they care for is to take care of themselves: body, soul, and spirit. While foster parenting does require much selflessness and self-sacrificing, neglecting yourself not only contributes to the
burn out rate, but also affects the entire family unit.
Stress Relief Tips
When the going gets rough and you find yourself becoming weary, take time for yourself and de-stress. Here are some stress relief tips:
1. Take time for yourself. Take a candle lit bath, go to the gym, meet up with some friends. Whatever you find relaxing and refreshing - do. Exercise, eat right, take your vitamins. Pray or meditate. Keep yourself healthy.
2. Take care of your marriage. Foster parenting can exact a high price on a marriage. Dealing day in and day out with challenging children, who quickly learn to pit one parent against the other, can make home feel more like a battleground. Give your marriage top priority. Everyone benefits when the marriage is happy and stable: your children, your foster children and yourselves.
3. Take care of your biological and adopted children. They are often forgotten in the whole foster care saga. You can quickly find all your time spent coping with the behaviors of the foster children and then find your own children acting out, trying to re-gain your attention. Go out one-on-one with them, to a movie, out for ice cream or out for a drive. Just be with them and ready to listen. Make it a rule that whenever you are out on your "date" together that they can express any feelings or thoughts to you, even venting to you, and you will just listen to them. They are likely dealing with much the same emotions and frustrations that you are.
One of the most important things a foster parent can do for the children they care for is to take care of themselves: body, soul, and spirit. While foster parenting does require much selflessness and self-sacrificing, neglecting yourself not only contributes to the
Stress Relief Tips
When the going gets rough and you find yourself becoming weary, take time for yourself and de-stress. Here are some stress relief tips:
1. Take time for yourself. Take a candle lit bath, go to the gym, meet up with some friends. Whatever you find relaxing and refreshing - do. Exercise, eat right, take your vitamins. Pray or meditate. Keep yourself healthy.
2. Take care of your marriage. Foster parenting can exact a high price on a marriage. Dealing day in and day out with challenging children, who quickly learn to pit one parent against the other, can make home feel more like a battleground. Give your marriage top priority. Everyone benefits when the marriage is happy and stable: your children, your foster children and yourselves.
3. Take care of your biological and adopted children. They are often forgotten in the whole foster care saga. You can quickly find all your time spent coping with the behaviors of the foster children and then find your own children acting out, trying to re-gain your attention. Go out one-on-one with them, to a movie, out for ice cream or out for a drive. Just be with them and ready to listen. Make it a rule that whenever you are out on your "date" together that they can express any feelings or thoughts to you, even venting to you, and you will just listen to them. They are likely dealing with much the same emotions and frustrations that you are.
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