Which is the Greater Child Abuse?

I have to start off by stating that I have no children of my own. However, I can not truly say the way children are raised does not effect my life. Can any of us truly make that claim unless we live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbors?

You hear constantly of people not wanting to spank their children, or refuse to let their children watch 'violent' programming. Never ever let your child or teen-ager see another human being naked, and so on.

I can understand a parent not wanting to raise their child in a violent and pornographically centered household. However, when the children grow up it takes a lot longer for them to stop being children on the average.

I'm going to point out my own home country of the United States. I love my country, don't misunderstand, but the general populace damages their child members psyche's greatly and retards their maturity to the point that it's not that uncommon for the younger generation to still be incredibly immature and incapable of living on their own in their late twenties and early thirties.

This is not the case in some other countries, and not even as a rule in the united states. In some households of my country, and in many other countries world wide the children are treated with a much stricter discipline and taught useable life skills. They learn early how to defend themselves, be independent, that sex is a natural and desirable part of life and they mature much earlier.

I do not wish to judge or criticize any parent's way of raising their children, despite what I have stated so far. I am seeking only to understand and in turn help others to consider these points.

Children who do not learn to defend themselves and the nature of what it feels like to be hurt, will never understand how other people hurt or how to defend another. Hell, these children do not even know how to defend themselves.

Am I saying beat your children relentlessly? No, I most certainly am not. I am however, in a mind to wonder just why people argue so vehemently against physical chastisement of a child in the form of spanking.