How to Deal with Rejection: 4 Steps

Step 1: Accept The Rejection.

There is a strange thing that some guys do when they are rejected. They refuse to accept it. Sometimes they even argue with the woman about it. That always seemed so bizarre to me. Some guys just really do get mad at a woman that doesn't fall head-over-heels for them.

It often turns into a completely ridiculous comment, such as, "Oh, you like me and you know it!", or "I am good looking, I hear that from lots of women!" Whatever you do, you will definitely make the rejection feel worse with this embarrassing and humiliating reality denial.

Yes, you may consider yourself very worthy and special, and of course you should. You have many wonderful qualities. However, that does not mean that every woman in the world will be attracted to you. There are probably many that will see you that way, but there will be an equal amount that will not.

You have your own unique taste in women. Women have their own particular taste in men. Sometimes the chemistry or attraction is just not there. That is something that everyone must accept. The sooner you understand and accept this principle, the better off you will be.

Step 2: Remind Yourself of Your Great Qualities.

It may sound silly, but this really is a great time to remind yourself of why you are such a great guy. You should actually write it down, and make a list of all your good qualities. When you are finished, you won't be angry, but instead will almost feel sorry for the woman that wasn't interested in you.

The poor woman! What was she thinking? At the same time, you will be excited to get out there again and eventually find someone that will recognize all those positive traits. This step is pretty much a self pep-talk. Believe it or not, it actually feels better to convince yourself than to get other people to cheer you up. Believe me, if you don't believe it yourself, then other people's opinions and efforts to cheer you up won't help very much.

Don't worry, she is out there! Dating is a process, and you simply have to go through it like everyone else.

Step 3: The Concert Principle.