BDSM Relationships: Dominance and Submission

There are so many ‘myth-perceptions’ about BDSM Relationships and so much more to it than many people think. And, yes, for some people, it is just about kinky sex! The Vanilla World, or what I prefer to call ‘the Mainstreamers’, can see ‘us’ as just plain weird, immoral heathens (I like that one, it makes me laugh), or even think that BDSM Lifestylers are kinky freaks.

But, to many of my friends and peers, BDSM and Dominance/submission (D/s) is about so much more. It is about giving, and about receiving. It is about opening one’s self to another so completely and fully there is complete transparency between partners. It is about finding your whole self and reveling in every bit of you! To be honest, in my world, there are as many levels and varieties of dominance and submission as there are people who practice it in their lives. You might be living right next door to a committed, (even married!) D/s couple (or polyfidelity family) right now! Ok, I will wait while you run to the window and check! Back already? You didn’t find ‘them’, did you? Maybe you just couldn’t identify the kinky people – because we look just like you.

We have jobs, or we are retired. We have kids in school, or we are childfree. We go off to work everyday, or we are stay at home parents. Heck, we even drive SUVs and go to PTA meetings! We are who we are – just as you are who you are!