Aging and Your BDSM Relationship: Growing Old and Enjoying Your Kinks

How to Enjoy Your BDSM Relationship, for Life

In a way, Aging BDSM relationships are no different at all from any human relationships. In fact, the mere fact that your BDSM relationship IS aging is such a positive thing! It means your are aging with a chosen lover. The thing that IS different is that in BDSM Relationships, our sexual play often includes implements which can, if incorrectly or badly used, injure one or both parties. As we age along with our partners in a BDSM Relationship, each of us may have to deal with a disability, or, as I prefer to call them, different abilities. That rock music you loved to crank up high enough to vibrate windows may damage hearing. Eyesight may diminish, or cease. Strokes, medications and a myriad of other common conditions of aging can pop into your relationship. So, what are some things you can do in your BDSM relationship to minimize their effect? Diminishing physical status in an aging BDSM Relationship can be handled to enhance your long term BDSM Relationship. How can you stay happily kinky as you age? 

- Hearing Loss-

When your partner is tied to a St. Andrews cross, facing away from you, waiting expectantly for the caress of the flogger is NOT the time to pretend you can hear just fine, and possibly miss her cues and signals that all is not well. Communicate! Talk with her before the scene begins, to set up hand signals or other methods of letting you know that she wants to end the session, or that she needs to run to the Little Submissive’s Room. For some people, a crowded and noisy club, where quite often loud music and other kinky players make for difficult conversation anyway, is the perfect place to practice non-verbal communication. One trick that works for me is that I hold a small cat toy in my hand. If I wish to stop the scene for any reason, or just to get my Top’s attention to ask for something different, I simply toss the brightly -colored, lightweight ball over my shoulder – at his head! Not really, that would be a bit much, but dropping the brightly colored ball does the trick.


- Eyesight Issues-