Narcissists Modern Indian Woman

Q. I can't get enough of men. I have to look at every man who walks by. I flirt, I keep in touch with past boyfriends, I make new ones, and I browse for men online. I get up to 20 e-mails a day from my men. Once I have seduced them online, they are dying to meet me and usually sleep with me on the first date. Then I find the simplest flaw and use that against them to break it off. They are devastated. They feel I have used them sexually, and they are right.

The kicker is that I have done it ever since I was in a steady relationship with my 1st through umpteenth boyfriend and in every marriage that I have been in. At school, my friends credited me with having a brilliantly devious mind. My mother and sister knew about all this and helped me every time I needed to have an unwanted pregnancy terminated or needed to trap an elusive man. My new boyfriend is very rich, good-looking, and intelligent and we have a good sex life. I am 42. We have been together for 2 months; his wife is my friend and does not even know about our affair. I, however, still need a constant rotation of new men. I just can't stop seducing other men and having sex with them. Nor do I want to, because I am having the time of my life.

This has at times affected my job, but only when I have a female boss who cannot be befooled and because it is so time-consuming. Typically, it takes three hours a day to write to men. Then I make phone calls to those on the rotation for that day. Then I e-mail again for another three hours. However, while I was married, I could only do that after my husband went to bed. Then I do a few hours of research for new men.

I have slept with an untold number of men. I would not call it an addiction because I like it so much and it makes me happy to meet them, seduce them, sleep with them and, yes, even break up with them. This week I will hit my all-time record of sleeping with 3 different men. They are all wealthy, intelligent and successful, and they all think we will live happily ever after. They have no idea that I am sleeping with so many other men, let alone married. I know hurting them emotionally is bad. I just can't stop. To me it is all fair "game" as long as it is consensual.