Confident Dater Versus Arrogant Dater

Have you ever gone out with a guy who loves himself so much that you wonder why he even bothers to date? He's the type of guy who compliments himself repeatedly, always feels the need to tell you how great his personality is, and brags about his accomplishments. There was a point in time (usually in teenage years) when most people think that looks are more important than personality. To be fair, looks are what initially attract one person to another, but personality is what keeps someone interested. Confidence is sexy on a person. When they walk in a room, you notice them. But arrogance is something that makes people distance themselves from you. Below are examples of what not to say so you won't cross the line from confidence to arrogance.

Scenario 1:

Man and woman meet up for the very first time for a date.

Her: You're handsome.

Him: Thank you. (Sits down and talks about something else. At the end of the date, he asks her for a second date.)

Mistake #1: Women like to feel attractive to their dates as well as be attracted to them. If a compliment is not returned or given throughout a first date to let a person know that you are feeling them, they will think you are not, and will be less likely to have that fun, flirty conversation that most daters have. They may also think you're stuck up or shy. Either way, neither is a good look for a first impression. Sometimes people aren't attracted to each other, and that's no one's fault. But if you want your date to know that you're attracted to her, you have to tell her. She can't read minds.

Scenario 2:

Contrary to popular belief, many women love cars. Not just the exterior or brands, but they like to talk about cars too. Here's an example of a conversation a woman had thinking since her date liked cars, he'd be interested in talking about maintenance of them.

Her: I stopped checking my tire air pressure in the winter, but I always do it in the summer and fall. Do you?

Him: No, you saw my BMW outside. My dealership does this. That's why they get paid the big bucks.