Are We Innately Bisexual?

The Homophobes Ain't Gonna like This.

By Nikki M., published Aug 08, 2006
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A lot of people seem to question their sexuality these days and a while back I was one of them. Well... sorta. One day I began to wonder if I was bisexual, thanks to a hot and heavy dream I had that involved me and a girl (a celeb actually whom I won’t be revealing :p) doing “stuff”. Throughout the day and weeks to come I could have sworn I sorta had feelings for her. And it wasn’t because she was hot; it was because of her as a person.

For the next few weeks I felt like I was sorta bisexual or rather on the edge of being a bisexual. I started to find girls attractive! I mean I’ve always been aware of a pretty girl when I saw one but I’d never thought of how I’d love to kiss her! It even got to point of not minding being in a relationship with girl. Years before this incident I had another dream where I did stuff with.. or rather to a girl but I didn’t sorta become bisexual! I didn’t become attracted to girls. Why was this incident different then? I mean for a month or so I was basically bisexual- I didn’t act upon it though. That would have been interesting.. So was it just a phase? If it was then why does it seem to be starting up now once again?

The first time it happened I tried to figure out why. I started to think it had something to do with my spiritual work- my quest to enlightenment. Perhaps the closer I got the more I realized the true me. Then I began to wonder if everyone is supposed to be bisexual. Why should love know gender? Why should gays fall madly in love with straights and vice versa if there’s no chance of them being together? (Seems kinda harsh). Why should love have anything to do with physical characteristics? Are we innately bisexual but due to the way society is in general about homosexuality, we’ve repressed this side of us from lifetime to lifetime that now most of us are barely aware of it?

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  • Are we innately bisexual?
  • Why should love have anything to do with physical characteristics?
  • Why should love know gender?
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I believe that most humans are simply sexual with individual leanings and preferences as simple as a preference for male or female bodies or for red hair or as complex as fetishes and lifestyles.

Posted on 03/28/2008 at 10:03:16 PM

 
I definitely think, as a friend of mine put it, that human sexuality is "fluid", meaning it doesn't stick 100% to one thing always in everybody. Know it is a person's choice whether they acknowlege their feelings or act on them, but friendship and fondness and appreciation, given the right circumstances, easily could fall into romantic infatuation. At least that's what I think.

Posted on 08/06/2007 at 7:08:00 AM

 
Leonard; All men start out their sexual orientation as Bisexuality. We learn to use a womam's body both for nurishment ,and also in a sexual way, I would call that Bisexuality, wouldn't you?For a man his sexual preferance comes later, not so for some children. They already know their Homosexual preferance. And some of the Bisexuals also form their own sexual preferances, and chose the opposite gender.Female Bisexuality, Perhaps they come under different Emotional and Physical needs that they do not find in a Hetosexual relationship.

Posted on 04/02/2007 at 1:04:00 AM

 
I liked this article a lot - I am not bisexual but I do have an appreciation for the female form - I think women are beautiful, sexy, and who knows - if angelina and I were alone...

Posted on 03/08/2007 at 9:03:00 PM

 
I am sick and tired of girls saying they are bisexual just for the purpose of pleasing their sleazy boyfriends. If you're going to be bisexual, be so because that's what you are, not because you're trying to make your boyfriend happy. Stop trivializing same-sex relationships, girls.

Posted on 09/07/2006 at 5:09:00 AM

 
I too think that we are all bisexual to some extent. Humans are attracted to individuals of both sexes, sometimes this leads to a sexual encounter sometimes it doesn't. Those of us who accept the fact that we can enjoy taking those feelings to the level of sexual satisfaction are "labeled" bisexual. It's all about how far you let yourself go!

Posted on 08/20/2006 at 8:08:00 PM

 
Well, Nathan personally I don't know but upon googling I came upon this site: www.bi-nsw.org.au/brochures/htsabsg.pdf You may find it helpful. Also, your community may already have one. Try googling bisexual support group +[the name of your city, or city nearby or state]. You might also want to join an online bisexual support group so try googling that. Good luck :)

Posted on 08/18/2006 at 9:08:00 AM

 
how does one start a bisexual group in their community nathan newcomb

Posted on 08/18/2006 at 12:08:00 AM

 
LSON625, that was beautiful :) LINDA, it definitely makes sense that being attracted to men shouldn't make you less attracted to women. The X-Y axis concept sounds really interesting. Thanks for the link! :)

Posted on 08/17/2006 at 8:08:00 PM

 
Just something to throw into the mix....My sweetie did some research around bisexuality in young women, and one thing she notes is that attractions to women and men are actually independent variables. Instead of putting them on a linear scale (like Kinsey's 0-6), use an X-Y axis instead. If you think about it, being highly attracted to men doesn't necessarily mean you're *less* attracted to women. You can be highly attracted to both, or prefer one over the other, or not feel much attracted to anyone, or really like androgynous people, etc. The model may not capture all the gender identity variations out there, but it certainly opens things up more than a simple 0-6. :) (If you're interested in reading her research, you can find it at www.emilydrennen.org/research_other.shtml.)

Posted on 08/16/2006 at 10:08:00 AM

 
INNATELY SEXUAL, FOR SURE. HUMAN SEXUAL ORIENTATION IS A MULTIFACITED MYSTERY THAT DESERVES MUCH RESEARCH, DISCUSSION, RESPECT, AND CONSIDERATION, AND DESERVES VERY LITTLE CRITICISM. PERHAPS THEN THOSE OF US WHO STRUGGLE WITH NOT FITTING THE "NORM" OF OUR CURRENT WESTERN SOCIETY WOULD FEEL LESS GUILT AND PAIN, AND MORE FREEDOM TO LOVE THOSE WHITH WHOM OUR SOULS CONNECT, BOTH MALE AND FEMALE.

Posted on 08/16/2006 at 8:08:00 AM

 
Don't forget: the right hemisphere most represents the female side while the left hemisphere most represents the male side. I bet an extremely homophobic person uses maybe 10% of one side and 90% of the other!

Posted on 08/15/2006 at 9:08:00 PM

 
Wow. Thanks for all the comments. It's always nice to read other people's opinions. KC62301, in terms of what part of the brain determines orientation I think like I mentioned in the article it just has to do with the balancing of both hemispheres or being close to that point. Not necessarily a specific part of the brain. You do make some great points though. Perhaps I'll write a follow-up to the article as I gather more info. UNNAMED User, thanks for sharing your experience :) LAURIE, I love your soul idea. I think that's most capable of triggering bisexuality. The soul knows best. Thanks for the link! :) TIMOTHY, I love your analogy! I can't wait to try it out on some unsuspecting homophobe!

Posted on 08/15/2006 at 9:08:00 PM

 
What exactly causes sexual orientation? Is it a specific gene or a specific set of genes? Which one(s)? If you can't answer that, you're just speculating about innateness. Any genes contributing to sexual orientation lmost certainly are genes that influence the brain (unless you believe sexual orientation is determined by, say, your knees or your genitals rather than your brain). The brain is extremely open to modifications by experience, so gene expression and environmentally driven experiences work hand-in-hand to produce the final organization of an individual brain. Exactly what part or parts of the brain determine sexual orientation? Do we know for certain that experience plays no role in the development in this part/these parts of the brain? If you can't answer these questions, you're just speculating about innateness. We know so little about the causes of sexual orientation that any claim for innateness is nothing more than speculation. Some people may strongly committed to

Posted on 08/15/2006 at 4:08:00 PM

 
Anyone who suggests that homosexuality is a choice is unwittingly encouraging the idea of innate bisexuality. After all, if you can choose to be homosexual, then that means you can also choose to be heterosexual. By that logic, we must all be born with the ability to be happily gay or straight. Try that argument with homophobic right wing tops. That really ticks them off. Because they simply have no way to argue that you can ONLY choose homosexuality and not heterosexuality. And as for those homosexuals who have been "cured" well, clearly we're talking about bisexuality there. Why they can't get that, I just don't know.

Posted on 08/13/2006 at 5:08:00 PM

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