'Locker Room'Sex Talk: How Much is Too Much?

Girls talk. Boys talk. It’s a fact of life. When we have an interesting/funny/embarrassing sexual experience, we want to share it with our friends, and sometimes we tend to go overboard when sharing personal information about our sex lives. So that begs the question when it comes to ‘Locker Room’ sex talk: how much is too much?

Twenty years ago, it was pretty well-known that what went on in the bedroom stayed firmly locked behind closed doors. I don’t doubt that the occasional gossip went on, but as a society we’ve gravitated toward more open conversation about sex. Women and men alike don’t cringe at the idea of sharing intimate sexual experiences with friends and even family. How else can we learn if we aren’t allowed to share?

In my experience, women talk more about sex with their friends than do men. Or at least, they share more details then men. But when my buddies and I get to drinking beer and watching TV, we often talk about sexual experiences with our wives, and sometimes it gets back to our wives that we shared. So what kinds of rules should be set regarding locker room sex talk? And when can sharing hurt the person we love?

The first rule of thumb, if you ask me, is that you should never share information that might hurt your husband or wife. Some experiences in the bedroom are better kept private, especially when you are asked not to share it with others. Love, trust, and devotion are three qualities that I value in my marriage, and are never to be breached. While I will share the occasional anecdote with my friends, I think that I know where to draw the proverbial line.