8 Choices You Must Make to Live Successfully with Chronic Illness

We all seek validation for our chronic illness, but our attitude about how we live with it, even when we don't find that validation from others, is vital in how we succeed. It's all about choice. The doctor may tell you what your body is doing or how it may react in the future, but you still have choice to make that will impact everything else about your life.

[1] Recognize that the illness is chronic

You will swim through the phases of grief for the rest of your life, because with a chronic condition comes new limitations as the illness progresses. Don't be too hard on yourself; reach out to others, build up friendships with those that understand, pursue new hobbies that get your mind off of the illness, take a second look at your faith and how this effects it.

[2] Be a good advocate for your health

You know your body better than anyone else and the likelihood is that you will get tons of well-meaning advice from both friends and strangers. Be discerning in what you choose to follow and what you choose to let go. Kindly thank those that offer their advice, but don't make any promises or feel obligated to try anything they offer.

[3] Do research on new medications and alternative treatments

Be wise in how much money you invest in alternative treatments; don't continue to dump money into alternative treatments when the practitioners continue to offer promises and testimonials. Recognize that alternative supplements are not regulated by the FDA and may not be as effective as they claim or even safe.

[4] Choose your doctors carefully

Ask for referrals. Find a doctor who your personality clicks with. Don't be demanding or act like you know more than s/he does, even if you occasionally do. Build a team of doctors that is willing to work with you to give you the best quality of life.

[5] Refuse to give into bitterness

When you're seeking validation for your illness, especilly when it's invisible, it's easy to get caught up in the blues of "but they don't understand!" and "they are so lucky and they don't even appreciate their health!" Defy the tendency to feel sorry for yourself and instead choose joy.

[6] Step outside yourself