Celebrating Valentine's Day for Single People (revisited)

One thing that stood out most about my 2006 list for Singles Celebrating Valentine's Day alone was the horrible sentence structure and typos. Other than that I thought, "Wow. I'm pretty darn insightful and secure with my singleness."

Actually, I really am secure and love me some me. But I'm starting to realize not all of my single friends are celebrating that good sense of self on the same level. Actually, some are in manic states due to not having a mate. It seems equal amongst men and women.

Well, I want to revisit some things from my last list and hopefully spark the flame of joy I feel through these internet lines. Because people, it's getting beyond goofy what some of us (especially those of us over 40) are doing for the pursuit of happiness!

My 2006 list included:

• Getting over yourself and the "alone" thing
• Making an appointment at a day spa
• Getting videos
• Turning off the phones
• Getting your favorite meal/flowers/candy
• Pampering you!
• Enjoying your evening
• Enjoying something special with the kids (if you're a single parent)

These things are all doable. But, unfortunately, too many people I know (mainly women) are going nuts with the thought of being alone (any day, let alone VDay) and are really complicating their lives.

I was speaking with a friend last week and she knows a lady who just got married for the EIGHTH time. This woman apparently meets men on the internet, talks with them on the phone for a period of time, then has a physical meeting before expediting a marriage.

My minor in college was psychology. And though I can't claim to be an expert, I don't think I need a full Ph.D to know that this behavior is something on a clinical level.

Codependency is being recognized in the mental health field as something to seriously be concerned with. Mainly due to a codependents tendency to enter into a depressed state. The inability to be alone or needing to be needed on an exceptional level has prompted support groups for people exhibiting these traits.