iPod Etiquette for the Urban Dweller: Two Easy Rules

"iKnow You Know Better."

People, we need to discuss iPod etiquette for a few minutes.

Ahead of me in queue at the drug store today was a cubicle-style thirtysomething drone sporting a blue dress shirt, iron-free pants, and white ear buds connected to the iPod nano attached to his belt. Whatever he was listening to - old Dave Matthews would be my guess
 - he left both ear buds in his ears while engaging in a complete retail transaction. I watched as the clerk greeted him and he said nothing in reply, just swiping his debit card, taking his bag, and not even nodding.

About ten minutes later, I copped a seat on a downtown train next to a girl engrossed in her iPod. She graciously decided that I, and the other nearby passengers, should be treated to the extra sounds that spilled forth from her loud iPod: an unrecognizable rap song, something by the Killers, and finally a dreadfully annoying track called "London Bridge." I assure you that, had the real bridge been nearby, I would've contemplated snatching her iPod and tossing it into the Thames.

These indiscretions are daily occurrences here in Chicago, where, as in other cities, people drown themselves in technology like the iPod as a way of avoiding human interaction and building a self-prescribed bubble. While the sheer population density can cause an urban dweller to seek makeshift solitude in public spaces, the breaches of good behavior above are a sad sign.

A little iPod etiquette would go a long way if only city folk followed these two easy rules:

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  • City dwellers take too much refuge in their personal technology.
  • Respect people and take out your ear buds when you're interacting.
  • Watch your earspill when near others.
 
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Good points. I listen to my ipod at night while writing when no one is around!

Posted on 01/15/2009 at 8:01:01 PM

I have personally seen this kind of etiquette at its worst while I was in Chicago on the El as well. Annoying to say the least.

Posted on 09/23/2008 at 4:09:54 PM

This applies to everyone with an MP3 player. I wish they made ear buds that focused the sound into one direction.

Posted on 08/07/2008 at 7:08:31 PM

I'm just glad that this advice apparently only covers Apple's iPods and nothing else.

Posted on 06/14/2008 at 9:06:03 AM

Much as other people might disagree with your article,I think it is a necessary aspect of mutual respect to be aware of shared space. Some people find the distorted sound of loud music from headphones annoying,others dont. Whats the problem with hearing out a perspective from the former? I think its just respectful to give people your full attention when you interact too. I liked your article.

Posted on 05/17/2008 at 2:05:03 AM

congratulations on speaking your mind, regardless how others feel, cheers :)

Posted on 05/16/2008 at 8:05:57 PM

Oh yes- and I find the noise of babies and children in public quite offensive and far less avoidable than ipod spillover. I hate the sound of crunching (its like nails on a chalkboard for me), pitchy voices, and crackling bags and paper. But etiquette doesn't dictate not eating chips out of a crinkly bag while your offspring sings to itself in the seat beside you. Yes, maybe I go too far. Curse my lacking social skills. Probably ipods to blame, I s'pose.

Posted on 03/06/2008 at 8:03:55 AM

For some it is a way of avoiding social interaction. I have a terrible phobia of people, and even approaching a register to buy something gives me that state of panic. Some of us are introverts and will always be so; it isn't fair to judge us by the standard of the extroverts. That said, I'll pull out one earbud to interact with a cashier, or, if I'm especially anxious that day or I'm really enjoying the song (pausing can really break my reverie) I am sure to smile, and say thank you, even if I can't hear. It is quite comforting to me to have my own personal "soundtrack" at times. And I walk into people without my ipod, and gods am I ever apologetic and embarrassed but that surely doesn't help me do it less. Its just one of those daydreaming introvert qualities. I find eye contact intimate and overpersonal . . . but I can't complain about that etiquette, even though in many non-Western societies eye contact is indeed considered either aggressive or personal. Its a matter of

Posted on 03/06/2008 at 8:03:55 AM

Spider Lady say she no want to hear Gamers Rap... she say run them over in your car! Let Darwin sort them out. If they are twoo stupid to cross the street do we really want them breeding? If they drive with the ear plugs in they head they deserve get run over by train, let Darwin sort them out! They little white ear plugs make them suseptable to getting them ripped off... They should have spend money on education instead...

Posted on 02/04/2008 at 2:02:19 PM

Great advice! My husband has an iPod addiction, too and he doesn't seem to understand when it is and isn't appropriate to listen to it. My pet peeves are that he takes it to work and that he is constandly fidgeting with it while driving. It's worse than a cell phone! At least with a cell you can look at the road.

Posted on 12/13/2007 at 12:12:05 PM

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