BDSM Relationships - Adult Erotic Spanking and Paddling

With a Thwack Thwack Here and a Smack Smack There…

Spanking as erotic stimuli is a very popular piece of the whole BDSM or D/s (Domination and submission) culture. WHY? Well, in part because of the hugely erotic emotions of vulnerability for the submissive, and partly due to the physiological responses caused by pain stimuli. Then, add in the ‘helpless surrender, but I am safe with my lover’ feelings, the fact that the buttocks are a major nerve-filled erogenous zone, and an overwhelming flood of endorphins – and there you go! Instant Pleasure.

Before you all go getting your knickers in a twist, this article is about adult spanking for erotic enjoyment. This is NOT about spanking or paddling children. Children cannot give consent, because they lack the capacity for consent. And, adult erotic spanking is all about consensual enjoyment!

Communicating clearly and honestly with your partner is the first step, in any exploration or experimentation with new sexual ideas, and spanking is certainly a topic that will require discussion and honest communication between partners. While you are not in a sexual situation, fantasize with your partner about what you would like to do. Talk about sexy ideas, and incorporating some sexy erotic spanking into your sexual play. Together, decide your boundaries. Does she want to be spanked to tears? Does he fantasize about being spanked as ‘punishment’ or as pleasure? Discuss what you will do if one or both of you aren’t crazy about spanking.