Women and Dating After 40

Over 40, Single, Without Kids and OK... Believe It or Not

Is he constantly blaming things outside himself when you are focused on taking responsibility for your own life?

Is he a right wing militarist while you are a left wing pacifist?

Does he drive a hummer while you are into sustainable living and getting rid of attachments?

Does he value environmental concerns and hiking religiously while your favorite activity is to go to the mall and park as close to the door as possible?

These sound like comical matches but this happens all the time. Women will accept things that they know are unacceptable in a love just to have a lover.

Sure, opposites attract, but how ludicrously opposite do we have to be to become aroused?

The most common compromise of all gets its own section:
Is he looking for a sex buddy while you are looking for a long term relationship?

Chances are if he does not want to wait to get to know you before having sex he is not worth having sex with in the first place. Women constantly try to have relationships with men they would not want to be friends with. We fear that if we wait the amount of time that is comfortable for us he will have moved on so we force ourselves to have sex too soon and it turns it into just casual sex with a stranger.

Is this better than being alone?

Women have helped erode our own values by giving in to peer-pressure. Forget the three date rule or three month rule or whatever this week's Cosmo says it right. Throw out the rules and truly go with your gut. If he can't stand to talk to you and do things with you without having sex for a while than forget him and move on. This one is looking for a quick fix and not a relationship and it is best to let him go or just be friends.

I know this is not easy when the "Sea-of-Should" is all around you. But you will grow so strong and amazing and beautiful inside and out that the right people will be drawn to that rare, unique integrity that you will have grown within yourself.