Dating & Relationships: How to Catch a Cheating Spouse Red Handed

I think almost everybody could agree with me on this one: The only thing worse than finding out that your spouse is a cheater is NOT KNOWING. Not knowing if your partner is faithful can eat away at you and cause pain that can last months or even years. Betrayal is the worst form of disrespect and can leave wounds that won’t heal for a long time, if ever.

Before we delve into sneaky ways that you can catch your partner red handed, lets first discuss why people cheat. I have often thought to myself, “Why is it that animals are able to stay faithful to each other for a lifetime, while many humans can’t seem to handle this task for more than a matter of months?” 

The fact is that humans are the only creatures that realize they have a “choice” to how many partners they chose to have at a single moment in time. In addition, in recent studies, scientists have found that males with higher than average testosterone levels may be at greater risk of being involved in extramarital affairs than males with low testosterone levels. However, unlike animals, we have the ability to make decisions. We are able to over-ride these hormones at any given time. Still, many chose not to. Testosterone or no testosterone, I still think cheating ultimately has to do with unhappiness.

And, due to our ability to make decisions, those who chose to cheat go to great lengths to hide their affair. This is because they know what they are doing is wrong. This is why people who are cheaters are often hard to catch. So on that note, here’s some potential signs that your partner may be cheating:

1. Change in Usual Work Pattern – Extended hours or possibly even over night shifts. This is the most popular excuse used by a cheating partner. 

2. Phone Turned Off/Not Returning Calls – If you try to contact your partner during times that you are suspicious of them being disfaithful and they do not answer the phone or answer it but quickly find a reason to hang up with you, there’s a good chance that they are not being faithful.