BDSM for Beginners - Safewords

Red, Yellow, Green Are Just Words and Mean NOTHING by Themselves!

Beginning Explorers in the BDSM World hear a lot of advice from more experienced ‘players’. Unfortunately, a lot of that advice is worth nothing more than it costs…NOTHING. A person new to BDSM might hear, “Oh, don’t worry about playing with me, I honor safe words, you will be fine!”

Sadly, in our eagerness to experience this amazing world of BDSM, many of us trust everyone we meet. True, that ‘experienced Master with 107 years of stellar and well-recognized standing in the community’, may really be just a guy with a penchant for hurting women. Or, that ‘Mistress of the Dark World on High’ could be a man-hating freak, but people new to the lifestyle ache to explore, and ache to trust the first person who takes an interest in us.

Safewords are intended to protect participants from going further or doing things they don’t wish to do. Safewords are also intended to end or slow down the scene for other reasons, such as a cramp, charleyhorse or a sudden onset of dizziness or shortness of breath. Common safewords are RED, YELLOW and GREEN. Many BDSM Clubs have a standard safeword for use by all participants, such as ‘Mercy’. Dungeon Monitors and Event Staff are trained to respond to any safeword situation, by checking in with the players to see if they need assistance. The word ‘safeword’ is itself, yep, you guessed it! A safeword. Long term partners often designate their own private safeword.