How to Be Assertive

Do you find it hard to speak up about how you really feel?

Often times, being assertive isn't always easy and then you walk away wondering, why you just didn't have the guts to say what you really wanted to say.

Sometimes the problem stems from how we were raised. Other reasons may be because we have learned passive behavior works best for our own world and by being non-confrontational, we feel safer to leave things unsaid.

Other reasons may be because of fears such as hurting other people with our words etc.

Anyone can speak up and out on any given issue at any time just to be noticed! However, the real art of communicating a point and being assertive comes when a person first has the wisdom on what they are speaking about, and deciding not to engage in a heated battle by accepting the other persons viewpoint.

In America where freedom of speech is one of our constitutional rights, I often wonder "Yeah, right" especially when we now must watch what we say and if it is politically correct to say what we want to say.

Keeping that in mind, the truth prevails, that if we choose our words intelligently, then we have an advantage and with that power, we find how and when to be assertive. No toes will be stepped on and you won't stumble over your words. It may take some practice if you are not use to doing so, but remember, practice makes perfect.

To be assertive in our speech and able to not allow ourselves to get emotionally involved in the whole issue is a valid key.

I am not saying that a person that is assertive cannot also be emotional, it is just when it is time to speak up on something that they feel has value and will make a difference, they need to keep the issue at hand in a controlled atmosphere through the use of their own tongue.

So what is it, that is bugging you and you are afraid to speak up? Is it a long overdue raise you want? Is it that girl you want to take out? Or guy?
Maybe you want to ask the BIG question?