How to Heal from a Miscarriage

When you find out your pregnant and once you start to come round to the idea you start to get excited and start to look forward to the next nine months. You're now getting attention and advice and the world seems perfect, but for a lot of women this dream comes to an end when they have a miscarriage.

When you see the blood, even though you know that there's nothing you can do to turn back time or prevent the miscarriage, you start to bargain with God even though your not religious, you try to convince yourself that women sometimes bleed and go on to have healthy babies or try to get to hospital to stop the bleeding.

When you do get to hospital and find out that you've lost your baby, your whole world falls apart, you don't know how your going to keep putting one foot in front of the other and all you know is that that human being that you were carrying and were going to meet has gone.

You start blaming God, your partner, yourself, friends and family, because if you can hold someone accountable, it might just ease the pain. You start thinking "if only I didn't drink that cup of coffee", "If only I wasn't around people who smoked or I should haven't smoked". The "IF Only" game that we play in our heads can make us go around in circles and drive ourselves crazy.

We start getting angry at other pregnant women, "Why are they pregnant, and I've had a miscarriage", gifts, toys and clothes for babies make us cry, being around pregnant friends is emotionally hard and seeing babies on TV hits us like a sledgehammer.

The tears will come and even when you stop crying and you think that you have no more tears left, something triggers off the tears again. It's ok to let the tears and pain out.

We start to get annoyed with friends, family and our partner for being able to move on and your stuck, your emotions are so raw and you feel so fragile,