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By SkyeDanzer, published Feb 06, 2008
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Nearly a YEAR ago, I wrote a piece for Associated Content called, "How to Be the Perfect Wife" from my heart. This piece hit the popular list on Associated Content and stirred a lot of emotional responses from readers both pro and con about the article. It also for some reason attracted the attention of a comment spammer. I was literally flooded with private messages on Associated Content email box when I normally get one or two private messages from readers every few months. The article, "How to Be the Perfect Wife", is not the best written piece in the world. But in all fairness, I wrote it from the heart and with true conviction.

Keyword Flooded for Page Views

I didn't even know what SEO and keywords were a year ago when I started my quest to be a freelance writer specifically for the Internet. I knew vaguely that you were supposed to put in the same phrase here and there throughout your article. The flooded keywords were actually the result of poor writing at the time and letting my passion and feelings take over the piece instead of proofing for redundancy and flow.

Does Not Encourage Open Communication

One of the complaints that I received (mainly by females) was that "How to be the Perfect Wife" article did not encourage open communication. I completely agree that communication is vital to any type of relationship, whether it be a friendship, business or marriage. I challenge those that feel the article does not encourage communication to realize that in order to know what your spouse (wife or husband) is thinking, feeling or needs there has to already be some communication established. I was not at all trying to communicate that women are robots and should just read everyone's minds around them.

I believe that regardless of the relationship, the fundamental principles that "How to Be the Perfect Wife" was trying to convey can be applied. Whether you are in a relationship with a significant other, the wife, the husband or even a business relationship, thinking about others is not wrong. Isn't that the golden rule of life?

Perfection is not Obtainable

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I totally "got" the first article, and this one proves it. Great write, thank you.

Posted on 05/31/2008 at 3:05:42 PM

 
I read the original article. I found it to be a wonderful piece and I fully understood the spirit behind what you were saying. There is nothing more prone to tick people off than to demonstrate a willing spirit of service to your family. For many, this sounds archaic and weak. I find it a necessary breath of fresh air in our over-PC society and a demonstration of great strength. Kudos to you.

Posted on 03/13/2008 at 10:03:27 AM

 
I read the original and the many, many comments lol I looked beneath the surface and didn't interpret the original like some others did. I think that's it...an article or anything else can be interpreted individually. Your explanation in this article is excellent!

Posted on 03/02/2008 at 12:03:21 AM

 
Well, I liked the original article. I think that's because I got the point of the title. Nobody is 100% perfect, but lots of people can and do meet the specifications people talk or joke about for their "perfect wife." How did I even find an article so old on AC? Maybe the computer steered me there because my Valentine's Day piece described ten things my "perfect husband" did, while living. And, yes, I did a lot of "perfect wife" things. And, no, we weren't really 100% perfect. And, feminist readers: maybe the key is that waiting for years, even thinking you're too much of a feminist to marry anybody, may provide the time to meet the "perfect husband" FOR YOU and become the "perfect wife" FOR HIM.

Posted on 02/14/2008 at 3:02:40 PM

 
I couldn't read the article without laughing out loud. Is this the perfect wife from the 1940's?

Posted on 02/11/2008 at 5:02:38 PM

 
At first glance, I understood the article to be a pragmatic extension and interpretation of the Bible on the topic and have little argument with it as a worthy goal for those who wish to aspire to it. I did not bother with reading most of the comments but I do find it a curious double standard that it is OK (by most) for women to aim for physical perfection (often via harmful methods) yet not to do so in our relationships, for fear of archaic expectations and substandard lives. Good work.

Posted on 02/10/2008 at 12:02:25 PM

 
(the rest)...The problem ISN'T that we didn't understand your article. The problem is that the feelings and opinions you are now describing were never captured in the original article. What you DID capture in the article was a scene straight out of the movie 'The Stepford Wives'.

Posted on 02/09/2008 at 9:02:13 AM

 
"Whether you are in a relationship with a significant other, the wife, the husband or even a business relationship, thinking about others is not wrong. Isn't that the golden rule of life? " But that's just the point. You didn't call the article, 'How to be a perfect PARTNER' or some other term that applies to all. You narrowed down what I assume was meant to be a description of selflessness (though I think it a poor one) to instead being a description of a gender role. You made it clear that these things apply to WIVES, and by implication, ONLY to wives. And you can wax on as much as you want now about how open communication is crucial - it doesn't change the fact that you advocated wives suppressing their own feelings, valid annoyances, even food preferences (I mean, good grief, how could it possibly be a big deal for a husband to sometimes eat foods his wife prefers? - it's not even an issue!!!) in order to be 'the perfect wife' for their husband. The problem ISN'T that we didn't

Posted on 02/09/2008 at 9:02:36 AM

 
I did see that article. I got what you were trying to put out there, and a lot of women did take in completely out of content. I am sure they were young and had some selfishness embedded in there little minds. I thought it was great. Can't wait to read more.

Posted on 02/08/2008 at 9:02:10 PM

 
You go girl!

Posted on 02/08/2008 at 6:02:36 PM

 
I'm another "haven't read it yet", but am sure it was 'on the money' rather than an article insinuating that you are that perfect wife. From this article I am positive I will enjoy (and agree with) your original article. Bye-bye... gotta go read it!

Posted on 02/07/2008 at 12:02:26 PM

 
I read the article but I did not have too actually because I understood what How to be a Perfect wife was all about. When I write I write from my heart and sometimes it gets the best of me which is apart of being human. You keep writing these artcles and if some people can not relate, they can not relate and it shows their ignorants not yours. Great Article and i look forward to reading more.

Posted on 02/06/2008 at 7:02:23 PM

 
Okay, I'm back! I just finished reading the thing, and I saw it to be well-written, and any of the above complaints you got about it over the months, I believe, are people just looking for a chink in your armor because that's what gets them off! It was a great piece, as was this one; an excelent analysis of "How to be a Perfect Wife", and the resulting fallout. KUDOS!

Posted on 02/06/2008 at 4:02:29 PM

 
Going to read the article. Be right back!

Posted on 02/06/2008 at 4:02:47 PM

 
I see what you're saying. I haven't read the article yet but will get to it.

Posted on 02/06/2008 at 3:02:30 PM

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