Lonely Girl
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Valentine's Day is dreaded when you are single and unmarried, widowed, divorced, separated, or when you are in a relationship that is dying. It is simply devastating when this time of the year approaches. The dominant feelings of loneliness emerge.
It is ironic that we are surrounded by a lot of people at school or at work yet many feel very lonely. In schools, students rush from one course to another. They eat for 30 minutes during lunch break, spending 15 minutes in lining up for food. Then, they go back to their scheduled block. After school, the student goes home. Their parents arrive after 6 pm. Many children are emotionally unattached to their siblings and parents. Everyone seems to be engrossed with their own thing.
In the same way at work, you rush from one project to another project, one task to another task. You greet your co-employees superficially. There is simply no time to mingle with other people in a deeper way.
Many of the older generation struggle with loneliness too. With their failing health, grandmothers and grandfathers find it impossible to come out of their houses and join social activities.
Being lonely on Valentines Day is the most painful emotion that one can experience. You feel empty inside. You know you are alone. You are restless. You have this intense desire to be needed by others. You feel left out. No one asked you to go out on Valentines Day. So you feel so rejected and unwanted. You dream of a relationship that never existed. The recurring negative thoughts bring you to this anxious, miserable hopelessness.
Four Reasons to Understand Loneliness
Dr. Gary Collins in his Christian Counselor's Manual explains 4 causes of loneliness.
1. Personal reasons
Do people perceive you as independent?
You exhibit an independent attitude. Often times at work or school, you keep others from visiting you at the spur-of-the-moment.
You cut yourselves from the outside world so as not to be disturbed. You hold your privacy up high that people got used to not bothering you.
Are you too needy?
It is ironic that we are surrounded by a lot of people at school or at work yet many feel very lonely. In schools, students rush from one course to another. They eat for 30 minutes during lunch break, spending 15 minutes in lining up for food. Then, they go back to their scheduled block. After school, the student goes home. Their parents arrive after 6 pm. Many children are emotionally unattached to their siblings and parents. Everyone seems to be engrossed with their own thing.
In the same way at work, you rush from one project to another project, one task to another task. You greet your co-employees superficially. There is simply no time to mingle with other people in a deeper way.
Many of the older generation struggle with loneliness too. With their failing health, grandmothers and grandfathers find it impossible to come out of their houses and join social activities.
Being lonely on Valentines Day is the most painful emotion that one can experience. You feel empty inside. You know you are alone. You are restless. You have this intense desire to be needed by others. You feel left out. No one asked you to go out on Valentines Day. So you feel so rejected and unwanted. You dream of a relationship that never existed. The recurring negative thoughts bring you to this anxious, miserable hopelessness.
Four Reasons to Understand Loneliness
Dr. Gary Collins in his Christian Counselor's Manual explains 4 causes of loneliness.
1. Personal reasons
Do people perceive you as independent?
You exhibit an independent attitude. Often times at work or school, you keep others from visiting you at the spur-of-the-moment.
You cut yourselves from the outside world so as not to be disturbed. You hold your privacy up high that people got used to not bothering you.
Are you too needy?
- Loneliness
- Coping with loneliness
Comments
This is a great article. Thanks for writing it.
There are so many of these things that seem to relate to me. Being bi-polar i tend to shy away from meeting people and stay off to myself too much, guess i am more of a loner. thank you for writing this. Thenak you for your comments on my poems. Good Job Miss Mrs ken
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