How to Be a Peacemaker Between Two Arguing Friends

Being stuck in the middle of two arguing friends is not a pleasant position to find yourself in. If you find yourself in the peacemaker position there are steps you can take to help your friends resolve their disagreements.

I recently found myself in such an awkward position and acted quickly to turn a potentially negative situation into a positive one. While shopping with one of my friends we ran into another friend who was not talking to my first friend. As they spotted each other I noticed the looks the two of them were giving the other. You could see the tension mounting. I quickly stepped in between the friend I was with and the approaching friend. "It's great to see you. Where have you been?" I asked. "Come here and give me a hug," I said to the second friend.

"I've been home with the kids," she replied.

"We're just doing some shopping. He, come on and shop with us. We'll make a day of it," I said. My first friend just glared at me and feigned a slight smile.

"Oh, I don't think that would be a good idea," the second friend said.

"Of course it is. It's a great idea," I said as I put an arm around each of them and pulled us all together in a friendly huddle.

"I guess I can work with that," said the second friend.

"Me too," agree the first.

"Remember when you two used to always get into trouble? You wee like sisters," I said. I talked about old times and funny moments and soon they were talking too. The day turned out pretty well and without any arguments. I was pleased as well as relieved.

The next time you find yourself in a sticky situation such as this it is important to defuse a volatile situation immediately. Here are a few tips for keeping the peace.


Avoid the original conflict.