Hot Sex and the Evangelical Church

Hot sex in the Christian community is a topic that is seldom discussed. For years my husband and I have been teaching Christian couples how important it is to have a satisfying sex life. Apparently, the message has finally caught on.

Several ministers and church groups are now saying that having a hot sex life is a good thing. One minister, Joe Beam, founder of Family Dynamics Institute, is on the cutting edge of this new movement. He believes that satisfying sex is necessary for a strong marriage, and beyond certain biblical mandates, Christian couples should feel free to decide what is best for them sexually.

Beam was recently interviewed on a segment of MSNBC. What he had to say shocked even the interviewer.

Humorous statements like, "Why can women be multi-orgasmic and men not? Well, I've decided God just likes them better!" would make most church folks blush. Beam believes that by breaking down the sexual walls that many Christians have erected relationships will be strengthened.

In his seminar, Beam discusses everything from oral sex to vibrators. He invites participants to ask questions which he answers in graphic detail. Beam does have scriptural guidelines regarding sex that he says are a must for Christian couples. For example, he says there should be no pornography (drawings from the Kama Sutra are okay), no adultery, group sex, or anything that harms the body, just to name a few.

Apparently, folks who attend his workshops often come away from the event feeling free to discuss sexuality for the first time in their lives. A few women admitted that they sometimes feel guilty while making love to their husbands, but after the workshop, they claimed to have a healthier understanding of what the Bible actually says about sex.

Beam has been attacked by many conservative Christians for his outspoken style and message. Some of what he preaches tends to contradict the teachings of other groups, such as Roman Catholicism. He usually responds by saying that if the Bible does not forbid it, then you can do it.