What Men Really Want to Know

Growing up, I had a lot of male friends. They would always turn to me for advice about their girlfriends, or the girl they wanted to be more than just their friend. When I met my husband in high school, this trend continued. His friends would always ask me why women do certain things, or how to best approach a sensitive subject. In fact, we have been together for twelve years, and the same friends still ask me questions. Why? Because I have always been an open book. I have always told it to them like it is, whether or not they wanted to hear the answer.

A few weeks ago, one of his friends asked me a question regarding his current relationship. This got me to thinking. The vast majority of men out there are probably wondering the same thing, but have no one to turn to. At least not a woman who will admit when we are partly, or fully, to blame for the problem.

So here I am now, deciding to write this on going column. I received a barrage of questions from the men I know and have been doing some research on the answers. I have been asking women from all age groups and ethnicities. Most of these women I know very well, and have no doubt that they are being honest with me. My answers to these questions are based on this research, as well as my own personal opinion. I have decided to discuss one question at a time, as some of the questions will require a great deal of research.

The first question I chose to tackle was, to me, a simple one. Why do women wait until after sex to ask or discuss a serious topic?

Simply put guys, we are not dumb. We now that you are at your most vulnerable post-climax. We know that our odds are upped of getting our way if we have just made sure you were physically satisfied. Face it, sex is way more important to a man than to a woman. You seek it more, desire it more, and even need it more for your self-esteem. It's not that a woman does not like sex, we do, but we are far more emotional in a relationship than physical. Men were created with a stronger sex drive than women. So what would the smart money be on for us, to ask you when you get home from work, or when you are completely and utterly stress free?