The Top Ten Ways for a Woman to Get a Man to Listen to Her

What is the most effective way to get a man to listen to you? No matter what your gender is, but particularly if you are a woman, the first tool is to be a good listener, too. Women are such emotional creatures that the urge to blurt out what’s in the heart is irresistible, leaving little room for reciprocal communication.

What the heck is reciprocal communication? It’s just a two-way conversation. And, conversations that only go one way are called lectures. So, if you think a man is not listening to what you’re saying, ask yourself if you are lecturing.

A recent survey of women from all over the U.S. in many different walks of life revealed a few similarities, and definitely a few differences. But, one common thread rang true with most. Remove distractions! We all know how to get his attention, but listening is different.

A wealth of information is found from the women surveyed ranging in age from 24 to 79. Some are married, some are not. These words of wisdom come from women who are secretaries, teachers, homemakers, professors, doctors, office managers and more. Though all are very different, one thing remains the same – getting a man to listen is a challenge.

Of the men surveyed – one answered. Surprised? And what he had to say may not be that surprising! 

Here’s what our women said:

10) “Men like to find solutions to problems; women just like to talk about them. Want someone to listen to you - don't denigrate or belittle. Treat whoever you are speaking to with respect (even if you have been sharing a bed with them for years and years and years). Talk in terms they can understand.”

9) “Get him in the car on a long road trip with a broken radio.”

8) “I hate to say it, but reserved charm and humor in direct proportion to how stupid and concrete they are being…. has worked when I can stomach it. Betty Friedan,,, please forgive me.”

7) “A man will listen intently if you talk about him and tell him how all-fired great he is!”